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        My New Friend
 
The Lord has reconnected me (a single mom) with an acquaintance of mine from college. I had not seen nor spoken to this gentleman since I graduated college in 1985. When we reconnected during the Christmas holiday, we hit it off right away.

He is a godly man, a deacon in his church, and his knowledge of the Word of God is wonderful! We have prayed together over the phone (he lives a couple of hours away from me...we see each other on Friday or Saturday on the weekends) and I see so much potential for this relationship. When we are together, we have a great time. I have not seen this kind of potential relative to a romantic relationship in over 3 years.

One of my strengths is that I am a communicative person, and when it comes to a romantic relationship, I like for all of the cards to be on the table regarding hopes and expectations.

One of the challenges with this relationship is that because we can't see each other during the week due to the distance between us, I believe that speaking on the phone once a day is very important. Most relationships during the first 5 to 7 days start off like this...there are daily calls, sometimes more than once a day. And, then (usually) the man starts to call less often.

This is what has started to occur between my new friend and I. We have been dating now for about a month. Should I talk to him about this? Should I tell him how I feel about the importance of staying connected by phone daily? I'm not talking about a 2-hour conversation every night...5 to 10 minutes is fine, and if we feel like talking longer, we can (it's the quality, not the length of the phone call that's important.)

I feel like a modern-day "Ruth," in tremendous need of a "Naomi" to coach me through this critical, tenuous stage of what appears to be a promising relationship. I don't want to appear overbearing or controlling, and I am blessed with a very busy and fulfilling life, but communication is important to me, and I think I am seeing subtle, beginning signs of this guy -- if not pulling away -- slowing down in his pursuit of me.

I need guidance. I pray that my heart is open and responsive to the coaching of my inner "Naomi," the Holy Spirit. I also pray that this relationship with my new friend becomes what GOD wants it to be, and that ultimately it glorifies Him. I also pray that I not sabotage the relationship in any way by being insecure or overly controlling, nor that I settle for anything less than what God has in mind for me. Please pray in agreement with me...please. In Jesus' all Powerful Name, I pray. Amen! 
Saturday, January 22, 2011 11:28:42 PM   lydia
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