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        NEED SPIRTUAL HELP FOR SELF AND FOR MARRIAGE
 
I WAS MOLESTED AS A CHILD BY A RESPECTED PERSON OF THE CHURCH-A PASTOR. I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DEAL WITH THIS ALL OF MY LIFE. I AM NOW MARRIED AND THE PROBLEM IS THAT I WISH TO DEVELOP A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, BUT I AM HAVING PROBLEMS WITH LETTING GO OF WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AS A CHILD, CAUSING ME TO TAKE MY TIME IN PRAYING, AND GETTING MY LIFE IN THE ORDER IT NEEDS TO BE. PLEASE HELP AND PRAY FOR AND TELL ME HOW I CAN OVERCOME ALL OF THIS. I AM A GOOD PERSON, BUT I HAVE LET CIRCUMSTANCES OF LIFE MAKE ME A SOMEWHAT BITTER PERSON. MY HUSBAND TRIES TO TALK TO ME ABOUT THE BIBLE, BUT WHAT DO YOU DO WITH A PERSON WHEN ALL THEY DO IS TRY TO FIND FAULT IN EVERYTHING THAT I DO, SAY, WORK, WHAT I WEAR, WHO I TALK TO? NOTHING IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM WHEN IT COMES TO ME. HE ALWAYS THROWS UP ABOUT THE "GOOD WOMEN" HE USED TO BE WITH. HE CONSTANTLY COMPARES ME TO OTHER WOMEN AND CRITICIZES EVERYTHING I DO. I KNOW MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING CREATED BY GOD, AND I WANT MY MARRIAGE TO WORK, BUT I AM AT WITS END. I AM AT THE POINT WHERE I AM TIRED OF BEING CRITICIZED AND JUDGED BY SOMEONE WHO REALLY THINKS I AM NOTHING. IT HAS EVEN GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE HE THINKS I AM TURNING MY CHILDREN AGAINST HIM, WHEN THAT IS ABSOLUTELY UNTRUE. PLEASE HELP!! 
Thursday, March 18, 2004 8:47:30 PM   guest
 
      re:NEED SPIRTUAL HELP FOR SELF AND FOR MARRIAGE   
I'm sorry what happened to you when you were a child. What the pastor did in no way at all reflects on the character and nature of God. While God loves us so much, He does not control our actions, otherwise we would all be like zombies without a will of our own. The pastor would have to answer to God his actions.

I know it is truly difficult - ask God to help you forgive the pastor. I think that's the first step to letting go. Harbouring ill thoughts makes ourselves worse. Ask God to take away those bitter thoughts and comfort You and fill You instead with His Holy Spirit. I myself struggle to forgive someone - it's taking years but it gets easier as time goes by, with the Lord's help.

I, too, have a husband who used to talk down on me, and criticise me a lot - from my clothes to my friends. He doesn't seem to listen when I point out how hurting his words are, so instead I ask the Lord to speak to him. I had to learn to hold my tongue at times. I ask God to help me not feel resentful, and I also ask Him to teach my husband to be kinder in his words as well. It takes a long time, but I find he's so much less critical of me now, and we are having a much better relationship. I praise God for this.

Let us pray... Father, I bring this Guest before You. You love her and accept her the way she is. Help her to forgive the pastor who molested her. Help her, too, to forgive her husband for unkind words spoken to her. Fill her with Your love. Comfort her and let her know that You are a God where nothing is impossible. Lord, grant her Your wisdom to know how to show her love for her husband. May she win over her husband by her love and patience. I pray her husband will see the good in her and that You will be the one to open his eyes and help him see that unkind words do not help. Lord, bind this family together in Your love. Work a miracle in their lives. Thank You.

In Jesus' Mighty Name, Amen. 
Wednesday, March 24, 2004 8:36:41 PM guest

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