In a marriage relationship, it is easy for us to walk away and walk out when we are unhappy. We learn since young that not everything in life is the way we want it and what God teaches us in His Word is that He is a covenant loving God. He does not take His word and His vow to us lightly. We are also not to take our vows lightly. That is why a man and a woman leave their family and they become one. When things get tough and we tear away this "oneness", there will be consequences which we will have to bear the rest of our lives.
[Matthew 19:4-6] (NIV)
4 "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'
5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?
6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
We can choose what we want to do but we cannot choose the consequences. I remember one of Ed Cole's messages, he said "the best way for a man to love his children is to love his wife". I think the same applies to the wife.
You know the answers in your heart. The only thing is that for either you or your wife, do what my pastor recommends during marriage counselling. Love is not an emotion, but a commitment. Act on your commitment and do the first "work". Take the first initiative to go out on dates or to do things together (like giving flowers, etc.). Everything else will follow.
I'll just pray for you and your wife here Terry,
Father in Heaven,
I lift up this marriage to You and I pray that Holy Spirit You will bring about reconciliation even as they submit themselves and their family to you. In Jesus' Name, Amen.