Nicole;
God Bless You. All that I can tell you is that do not allow your will and want you believe that you want to get in the way of what Gods will is for you. I am 36 years old and I spent years wanting a man to love me. I used my will and my manipulation to try and create the perfect love. All I received has heartbreak and turmoil. My advice to you is to listen and receive the guidence of the Holy Spirit, read scripture, and pray. If the man you think you want is not ON FIRE for the LORD, then don't even bother. 

Hi Nicole,
It's normal to go through what you're going through now, and I'm glad you're asking for help and not jumping into things.

God has a plan for you. I remember hearing a talk about singlehood (that was years ago when I was strugggling with singlehood, too). The speaker said that we should not think that we are "incomplete", or that we would only be "whole" when we have a spouse. As individuals, we need to be "complete" in Christ.

I guess the first criteria would be "Is he a Christian?" "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." [2 Cor 6:14]
And then keep praying and lifting this matter up to God. God listens.

Let us pray.

Father, I bring Nicole to You. You see her struggles. Help her to be able to concentrate on her studies. Guide her to Your perfect will for her, Lord. I pray that she will find a husband who will love her and respect her. Lead her to the person You have in mind for her in Your own time. Help her to continually lean on You for guidance.

In Jesus' Name, Amen. 

changed on Sunday, September 15, 2002 11:00:41 PM

I think sometimes that I feel te same way, I think that you should do what your heart tells you to do. If you like the guy your age then go for it and ask him out or if you think the older one is better then that's great too.