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        In love with a non-christian :-(
 
I accepted Christ as my personal saviour when I was in school, but somewhere along the way when I moved away from home to a different city to work, I lost the anointing. That was when I fell in love with a non-Christian man. We care for each other deeply & get along well except for religion. When we started seeing each other I dint realise what I was doing and promised to marry him.
But God wouldnt let go of me so easily. I resigned my job and came back to my home city to take up another. I miss him a lot but am happy here because I have had a fresh annointing of the Spirit. Now I realise what I did was wrong but I still do care for him deeply. Is it wrong to care for him? :-( And he still blames me for not having considered that the relationship wouldn't have worked in the initial stages itself. What do I do?
I know I cant marry him. Cant I just wait that he turns to Christ?I have sown the seed & told him about Jesus, but sometimes I get angry as I dont see results.
What do I do if I am needed to marry another whom I dont love?? 
Monday, April 30, 2001 12:40:30 AM   garnet
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
When I read your request everything in my spirit became agitated. He blames you?? My dear, this is a warning sign about the nature of this man. If you two didn't agree about "religion", he must have known something about your faith in order to disagree with it.

Let me tell you about my own experience. When I got married neither of us were saved. We belonged to the same denomination, but neither of us knew the Lord. Twenty one years ago I got saved, but my husband still won't go to church with me. He has more faith now than he did 21 years ago, but it has been a terribly lonely faith life for me. I sit in church and all I see are couples praying together, sharing a bible, raising their children in church, etc. If you allow yourself to be taken in by this man this may be your future, too. I know that the bible says that the saved spouse must stay with the unsaved, and the Lord did call me after we were married. I love my husband very much, but only someone in my position can understand what a mistake it would be to marry someone who didn't share your faith before the marriage. You can pray for your friend and go on with your life. If there is a Christian out there for you God will send him to you and you will love him.

Father, I ask thank you for not letting go of your children when we try to stray. I pray for this woman's friend that he come to know Jesus, and I also pray that you continue to guide her steps, one day at a time. We don't always know where we are going, but we have Jesus, the Light of the World, to direct our steps. We come to you, Father, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, praising your Name forever and ever, Amen. 
Wednesday, May 09, 2001 12:12:30 AM gmles
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
Hi Garnet,

I too, (I see we're not alone in this either!) have been in the same situation, - being in love with a non-chrisitan, feeling so torn, not knowing what to do, if I could do anything at all... however my story has a happy ending; my (now) fiance became a chrisitian a year after we began seeing each other! Let me just tell you what a TRUE MIRACLE this is. Despite being the most christian-behaving person I'd ever met, and believing that Jesus Christ existed, there was just no way, he said, he'd ever believe in God. In fact, he even declared to me once that 'there was no way I could change him'. And how right he was! But it was not me, of course, it was the Lord who turned his heart and eyes to him, and I am forever in awe of that, and how it changed our lives and relationship. We are so blessed, because we came through it together - we have seen and lived the 'before' together and therefore live doubly blessed today to know what we share in the Lord now. OUr relationship is infinetly better than ever before.

The change came through prayer, through waiting on the Lord, through believing that no project was too tough for him.

I am definetly not saying this is what you should do, as if I had had your strenght I probably would have done things differently. (it was not easy and at times I definetly compromised my relationship with God because of it, it was sin) however I do believe, as humbly though I say it, that the Lord did use that, - he turned what the devil had intended for evil, and used it for His good. Hope is not lost, and you are not wrong in still caring for your ex-boyfriend. Either way, God will reveal to you the right path - in His time, according to His will. Trust Him.

Father in heaven I lay Garnet at your feet and submit to you all the anxiety and hope and love that she feels. I praise you for her GREAT faith father, and I pray that her testimony will be used in the life of her ex-boyfriend. We want him to know you Lord, to know of your unfathomable riches and love for him. I reaffirm all these wonderful words of wisdom from others Lord, and pray your special blessing on all their lives; thank you for working the way you do; your blessings stretch far.

Thank you Lord, In JESUS name,
AMEN 
Tuesday, May 08, 2001 3:11:32 PM nadine
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
Hi Garnet!
I really want to offer you a word of encouragement, my sister. Remember, our ways are not God's ways, neither are our thoughts primarily God's thoughts & He knows the high - no, Excellent - thoughts which HE has for you!Thoughts of hope & a future, & not of evil [Jer. 29:11].
That is why He would not need you to marry someone whom you will not love. It's possible that you may not love them right now, but God is God. The young blessed man of God I'm about to marry, I definitely was not in love with. Actually, I was near marrying someone else whom I was very much in love with. But now, I love & endeavour to treasure this man with all my heart.
There is NOthing and NOone in life worth jeopardising your anointing for - It is most Precious. You have sown the seed - yes, it is ok to still care for him, but subject your thoughts to God - turn them over to Him.
"Heavenly Father, I pray, in Jesus' name, that my sister waits on Your divine revelation & direction through what You're teaching her. I pray that You give her the wisdom to make the right decisions & watch You work, in Your own miraculous way, Your purpose for her life.
We pray in faith, dear Lord, because we know that You are Faithful & True, Pure in all Your ways: Lord, there's none else like You! WE love You Lord, as we thank You, in Jesus' Name,
Amen. 
Tuesday, May 08, 2001 10:42:16 AM guest
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
Father God I just come before you Lord and ask that you place Trust in this woman's life, Father may she just trust in you Lord to bring the perfect lifemate to her. Father I know what it is like to be unequally yoked in marriage with a non-believer and Father I pray Lord that she would not make the same mistakes as I have done in the past, I pray Lord that your Will would be done in this situation and she would surrender her lovelife and all concerning it over to you I pray all this in your precious Son's name Christ , Amen. 
Tuesday, May 08, 2001 9:45:09 AM mima212
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
Hello garnet,

I admire you for your strength and for seeing and deciding on following His Word. There may be other reasons behind your decision but whatever it is, when we honour God, He will honour us.

[Amos 3:3]
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

[2 Corinthians 6:14]
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

First thing, how can two walk together unless they agree? Unless you grow together and have the same vision, even if you stay together, you may grow apart. It is a simple equation.

Secondly, we cannot be unequally yoked. Even when we are with believers, it is difficult for us to grow together if we are unequally yoked. If we don't agree or don't see the same things.

God has the perfect person for us. And he will be someone that we will love. I don't believe that God will give us someone that we do not like.

Sometimes in our stubborness, we may choose to be with someone who is not equally yoked with us. Well, sometimes, even if you don't leave him, he might leave you in future because you don't see eye to eye. I've seen that in some relationships.

The decision is yours. You have to live with it and you have to lift up your life to God. Then leave the rest to Him.

[Psalm 37:4-5]
4 Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
5 Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

Dear heavenly Father,

You have the best in mind for us. At times it hurts and we can't comprehend, but help us to see Your perfect will. Help my sister here to get through this period of loneliness. Show her what to do and give her wisdom and understanding. Send her the right friends that will help her grow and send her the perfect partner in her life.

In Jesus' Name, Amen. 
Wednesday, May 02, 2001 10:58:11 AM waihun
 
      re:In love with a non-christian :-(   
Garnet,

I was just in the same situation that you were in. I was with him for 4 years and til this day I still love him but I pray each day that the Lord will continue to work in his life. I use to get mad when I pray that he would give his life to Christ and I saw no results. I actually got mad when he started dating someone else and starting going to church with her. But I had to pray for forgiveness because the prayers that I prayed are being answered. I don't feel that it is wrong to have love that him just know that the Lord puts people in our life for a reason. Look over that relationship with him and you will find out the reason why the Lord put that man in your life. As far as marrying someone you do not love, the Lord will bring that man to you. He might changed the man you were with or the Lord might bring someone else along. But believe me when the Lord brings that man that he has for you in your life there will be no doubt in your mind that you love him and that he is the one for. Just continue to pray that you will be able to recongnize the man he has for you. I will keep you in my prays because prayer works. 
Tuesday, May 01, 2001 2:06:32 PM zeta96
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